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Self Love Is True Love

‘Find the love you seek by first finding the love within yourself – Ravi Shankar’.

This 2018 we’re practising self-love!
 No one has the time and the mental capacity to be treated below what they’re worth. That guy/girl is putting in 25% and your putting in 100%? Cut them off. There’s going to be many more people who are willing and waiting to give you what you need, don’t waste your time on one sided friendships and relationships.
One of my mates asked me how they should put self-love into practise and it got me thinking a lot of females & males want to better themselves and learn how to love themselves properly, but they don’t particularly know how to, so I decided to write my opinions on how to do just that.
I personally think to learn how to genuinely love yourself you must:
- KNOW your worth then add tax and that way you won’t tolerate others that treat you anything less than what you believe yourself to be.
- Surround yourself with positivity and people that actually want to see you win. Although it can be hard, never be disheartened by the friends that don’t clap when you do something good for yourself: when you get outstanding grades, when you start a business, when you pass your driving licences, get a new job etc. When you don’t see the people closest to you cheering you on it may make you feel a type of way but learn how to brush it off and go about your business, you’ll see who your real ones are when these situations occur.
- Embrace your insecurities. Most of us have many insecurities and we can either choose to let them consume our minds and effect the way we act and the choices we make, or we can choose to gradually overcome and accept them. Each one of us are fearfully and wonderfully made, think you’re the shit and don’t let people tell you otherwise.
- Spend time alone so you can learn to fully love yourself, enjoy your own company and don’t feel like you need to depend on others for your own happiness. Nobody should be the main source of your happiness but should add to it. Females/males that believe they absolutely require a partner and have a new relationship every other month need to delete that mentality, you don’t NEED anyone. All you really need is God so allow him to fill whatever empty void that you have that your filling with other people. Take on a new hobby, learn how to play an instrument be productive with your time instead.
- It’s easier said than done but regardless of if you think you’re in too deep in any type of relationship, which is many people’s excuses remove yourself from any toxic situation. Mental health is more important than the time you’ve had with someone, don’t let that be the reason why you’re being mistreated.
Self-control is power, YOU are in control of your emotions, don’t go out searching for a love that is lost, search within yourself, you can not give a love that you do not have yourself.


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